Media

Are you secure with yourself?
Are you happy?
Are you worth it?
Are you good enough?
Is your marriage stable?
Are YOU stable?
...probably not
Do you suck at relationships?
Do you have a low self-esteem?
Are you always looking for something just a little better?
Do you work harder and longer for the things that are better than what you have?
...probably
WHY?
...Media.
The media has evolved the human race into insecure, unstable, depressed maniacs. HOW?
Beauty magazines that make women feel they aren't beautiful enough or good enough or NEED to buy their product because they have something wrong or something that could be better about them...low-self esteem.
Television that makes men and women feel the incredible need to stop eating and work out or BUY our workout video because your not good enough...insecurity/looking for something better.
People day in and day out are bombarded with things that are trying to convince them they aren't good enough or deserve something better.
This is creating a plethora of problems such as arrogance, depression, eating disabilities, insecurity which in return is ruining the relationship as we USED to know it....get to that later,affairs, suicide, and ultimately an enormous amount, and not too mention ridiculous, of anti-depressants that are given out like candy on Halloween because people are down and out about it!
I'm not blasting beautiful people and people that are into their image or health whatsoever! I myself workout.
I am blasting the reasons that the MAJORITY do these things.
I hate hearing worthful people genuinely believe that they aren't beautiful because they set a standard from watching celebrities walk the red carpet or act in a show.
People are always looking for something better...this is creating a problem with finances, families, AND relationships.
You want the new pool because the neighbor got one? Work too much.
you want to work too much to get it? Sacrifice your family.
You want something a little more attractive? Have an affair.
These things are no problem anymore...they have actually become a norm for human behavior.
But it didn't used to be like that.
What happened?
There were always celebrities, there were always beautiful people, and there have always been workout and beauty products...but there hasn't always been a sales pitch to make you believe that you aren't good enough.
Now I know the majority of my blogs end with a conclusion...sad to say there is none.
Because you aren't worth it, you aren't beautiful enough, you need the better things...why...because everyone else wants you to have these things also. Everyone else wants you to think your insecure and not good enough...it will make you work harder, it will make you more beautiful, and it will increase your 'status'. So no matter what I tell you...your going to do it. Because other people want it from you as well. . . . . . . . . . . . sad huh?

Christmas Eve

WARNING *I might ramble about a bit*
Christmas has been perverted!
I have not spoken to a single soul who admits to being in the Christmas 'Spirit' at all this season! Why? Well...let's talk about it.
Media and society has created a competition out of the Christmas season. GET THE BEST DEALS! DECORATE YOUR HOUSE BETTER THAN YOUR NEIGHBOR! BUY THE BEST GIFTS! COOK ALL THE FOOD! STRESS YOURSELF OUT so we can make MONEY!
Everybody enjoys the scene of the peaceful family sitting by the fire with snow falling and music in the background just hanging out and enjoying each other. BUT nobody does that.
We would rather send the kids to the room so we don't have to deal with them, watch 'the biggest loser' or whatever it is people watch nowadays, and gripe about worthless meaningless things that we can't change!
Generally, NOBODY reaches out anymore and does nice things, buying nice gifts has become doing that 'nice thing' for someone else and it is ridiculous.
FOR THOSE WHO DO...you usually get recognized by the local newspaper or on the news so congratulations you just did the least self-less act ever! You know you were all surrounded by the TV or bought 3-4 newspapers and felt proud because you were recognized.
I however...am in the Christmas spirit and sincerely hope that all of you have a safe and wonderful holiday, because regardless of how 'jacked up' society has made this season, when tomorrow comes around...it all comes back to where it is supposed to be. Probably because most of the stores are closed...lol.
MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM NIK F.

The dreaded-drive thru!

Let's travel back a few years to the late 90's where 'your momma' and other witless comebacks prevail.
Or we will just stick around here because I am hearing MORE AND MORE of it everyday!
Generally as a society we have become lazy and stupid! And I blame it ALL on the drive-thru!
It apparently takes too much energy to get your lazy and obese butt out of the frigging car to get your food, and people wonder why obesity is a problem!
Nowadays all you have to do is go through a drive-thru to get a fountain coke! OH MY GOD! This is ridiculous! People are even going through them to pay for their gasoline! This is an abomination and I am sick of it! If a drive through is down for some reason I have seen people get angry and drive across town to another just so they do not have to get out! *For the record I am excluding people with more than one child*
And on to stupidity! I am so sick of walking around campus, and in public, and hearing stupid witless people that think the simple and unoriginal comebacks and lines that even my mother uses is hilarious. HELLO! watch some stand-up, get the comedy central channel, watch some mel brooks and educate yourself! Oh yeah, and quit bitching about all of these Mexicans and their Spanish if you yourself cannot even speak your native tongue properly! Let me give a few examples...
"Have you ate today?" INCORRECT / "Have you eaten today?" CORRECT!
"I seen you yesterday" INCORRECT / "I saw you yesterday" CORRECT!
"We don't have no money" INCORRECT / "We do not have any money" CORRECT!
I would also like to do a small vocab lesson...
"Worsh" INCORRECT / "Wash" CORRECT!
Some people will say that it depends on where you live or how you were raised depending on the use of vocab...INCORRECT!
'WORSH' is not recognized by webster!
And some people will also tell you that how you use grammar also depends on your roots. INCORRECT! That is like saying there are more than one languages of English...EDUCATE yourself! Walk into McDonalds! You lazy, obese, uneducated, and witless members of society!

The meaning of life...at least mine...

In life everyone has that one thing that they can run to for ... anything. That one thing that gives them what they want even when nobody is giving that to them.
Some people smoke, some people drink, some run, paint, cry, shop, whatever...
For me, that one thing is music. Even when the world dissapoints me, nobody has any words of comfort etc. All I have to do is sit in front of an empty notebook with a guitar on my lap and just go.
Music is one of the most emotionally satisfying things we have been given. There is a song or a piece of music for everything...love found/lost, being let down, cheated on, salutes to jobs or people, themes, and even big green tractors.
Everyone can associate the way they are feeling with several songs that express that in a better way that they themselves could...that is the essence of an artist.
I only hope that one day I will have that kind of impact on music fans everywhere...
So I challenge you...when you find yourself in a stupor and are looking for a way out...find a song for that...if you can't find one...let me know and I WILL get one for you...

School...an insult to intelligence?

Fair warning...I'm about to vent!
Ok, I'm a friggin music major, therefore physics and American history are NOT needed! ( we will get to the american history in a minute)
Colleges and Universities are nothing but money making schemes. I should focus my credit hours, AND TUITION, on things I can use toward my chosen career path...like more theory or composition classes. NOT physics! If my conductor or one of my collaborators walks into my office one morning and demands that I solve some type of physics realted problem because the gravitaional pull of the earth is screwed up and WE, as music writers, MUST find the new value of gravity...I will kiss your butt!
And american history...please. If 12 years wasn't enough...i don't know what to tell you people. American history has been a topic of discussion with at least one of my teachers every year since friggin first grade! Since we are talking about grade school I would like to add how when you're in college...you don't get to grow up...because all of your instructors still think you're retarded...i'm sorry, mentally challenged.
Like homework...what's that about? If I sat my butt for an hour and a half in your friggin lecture guess what...I know what the heck I am doing. I don't need to do only the even numbered problems from the back of the book! I am not in junior high! I can listen and apply things!
And guess what? I am writting this in the library of the school I am currently attending. HA! Take that you money making joke of an educational institution!
Until next time.............

It's all wrong

Let's think about this...

Society, in the majority, has demanded that men act accordingly to the 'standards' set in order to 'get the girl'. Most guys, and in my experience girls as well, will tell guys...be a jerk. It's the way to get the girl. Don't pay attention to them, don't seem like you care...it is the thrill of the chase. Even if these things are outside his character...which leads me to my next concern.
A guy will act accordingly, as most of society demands, and will get the girl. Congradulations on a job well done...now you have to keep that up in order to keep her. There is your problem! Eventually people get exhausted being who they aren't and begin to be who they are. This creates confusion and frustration for the other party involved because they wonder...'what happened to the person I started this with?' Thus beginning the fights and irritating situations/conversations.
The 'nice guys',the guys who give a damn and will do their best to see you get the things you need/desire are the ones looked straight through. In the midst of the frustrating involvements almost any girl will tell you with tears welling that they wish they could find a nice guy. But when they have that option...VERY few take it. So what do we do?
Do we sacrifice our desire to actually be a supportive part of someone's life or give in to societies rediculous portrayal of what a 'real man' should be?
Not saying that we should be overbearing/clingy/or obsessed...people need their space/independence and most of all freedom, but everybody needs somebody they know will care for them and be there...no matter what.